Midlife Plot Twists
Approaching 40 brings major plot twists
A Podcast with Lucy Baber
In this show, we'll be chatting about all of the weird and unexpected ways that our lives seem to be changing as we inch closer to turning the big 4-0. As my friends and I start approaching 40, we all seem to have one thing in common—MAJOR PLOT TWISTS are happening all around us.
We're seeing midlife career changes and body changes, responsibilities shifting, and so much more. Whether you're starting over in something major in your life or have accomplished the goals you set for yourself, we're tackling the big questions we all have... like what now or what's next?
Join us on this journey to discussing the topic of women's issues as we approach midlife (or maybe you're already there). Hit subscribe and tune in!
My dear friend, photographer, and educator, Dr. Tomayia Colvin, recently joined me for a candid conversation about life after 40. In this episode, we talk about the impactful community she’s built for black photographers, what dating looks like in her 40’s, and the advice she’d share with her younger self.
Tomayia, I’m so proud to call you friend.
About Tomayia (1:43)
The Photo Cookout (4:02)
Creating Bridges of Opportunity for Black Photographers (7:16)
Making Long-Term Impact on Diversity in the Photography Industry (11:25)
Anti-Racism Course for Photographers (15:49)
Re-entering the Dating World Midlife (22:28)
Approaching Midlife (30:36)
Advice to Her Younger Self (31:53)
I recently had the chance to sit down with my dear brother-in-law, Charlie Baber to discuss what being his authentic self looked like as he approached 40. Authenticity is a word we toss around on social media, but what if we dug a little deeper into it’s true meaning.
In being his authentic self, after 38 years of life, Charlie realized that he was gay.
In today’s episode, Charlie describes what it felt like to come out to his wife, his kids, his church, and most importantly, himself. Listen in as he shares how he’s finally living his life authentically and true to being who God purposefully created him to be.
Get to Know Charlie (1:22)
Coming Out as Bi-Sexual to His Wife (13:42)
Charlie’s Coming Out Day (16:28)
Coming Out to Family & Friends (17:15)
Coming Out to the Church (20:48)
Being Gay at 40 (27:21)
Grief: The Loss of a Marriage (31:18)
The Impact of Living His Truth (34:19)
Charlie’s Growth in Faith (38:35)
What Charlie Would Tell His Younger Self (50:32)
What’s Next for Charlie (51:13)
The Future of The United Methodist Church (54:14)
Recovery can be a tough road to go down, but I’m thankful it’s an option. Today my dear friend and neighbor, Anne, is joining me for a truly eye-opening conversation around her struggle with alcoholism. In this conversation, we’re tackling here long-time battle with alcohol, what detox and rehab looked like during COVID, and the importance of diving into therapy.
Introducing Anne (:50)
Anne’s Relationship with Alcohol (3:14)
Going to Rehab (5:29)
The Rehab Experience (9:08)
Rehab During COVID (12:48)
Rehab Staff (14:21)
How Alcohol Effected Anne’s Health (15:26)
Deciphering Depression vs Alcoholism (21:35)
Anne’s Day to Day (22:55)
What Life Looks Like at 42 (25:16)
Life After Rehab (26:44)
Support Networks (30:07)
Midlife Stories (31:22)
Anne’s Long Term Treatment (37:23)
What Anne Would Tell Her Younger Self (40:31)
What Anne Would Tell Herself Back in March (42:50)
The Importance of Timing (43:14)
Changing careers can be daunting, but what about making career moves in your 30’s or 40’s? My dear friend, Mari-Carmen Farmer, joins me to share all about how her life experiences led her to making a midlife career move to become a midwife. Listen in as Mari shares about her experience with loss, the comfort she’s found in the symbolism of labyrinth, and how becoming an empty nester left her feeling motivated and accomplished.
As we approach midlife, many of us are finding ourselves again—particularly when we run into a midlife plot twist. I’ve watched my amazing friend, Renee Shea, conquer her own midlife plot twist with strength and grace. Listen in as we discuss how she managed unexpected plot twists in her business and personal life.
About Renee (1:06)
Renee’s Photography Transformation (5:25)
Accepting and Creating Her Brand (9:10)
Renee’s Midlife Plot Twists (13:35)
Takeaways & Learning from MidLife Plot Twists (18:52)
Femininity vs. Masculinity (18:51)
Advice to My Younger Self: You are enough. (27:11)
Age vs. Maturity vs. Life Experience (28:18)
Social Justice and your Business (31:36)
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Welcome to Midlife Plot Twists with Lucy Baber! In this show, we’ll be chatting about all of the weird and unexpected ways that our lives seem to be changing as we inch closer to turning the big 4-0. As my friends and I start approaching 40, we all seem to have one thing in common—MAJOR PLOT TWISTS are happening all around us.
We’re seeing midlife career changes and body changes, responsibilities shifting, and so much more. Whether you’re starting over in something major in your life or have accomplished the goals you set for yourself, we’re tackling the big questions we all have… like what now or what’s next?
Join us on this journey to discussing the topic of women’s issues as we approach midlife (or maybe you’re already there). Hit subscribe and tune in on October 1st!